Sunday, March 10, 2013

Older Son Syndrome - Homily for the Fourth Sunday of Lent, Laetare Sunday, March 10, 2013


          “The Prodigal Son is one of the Stupidest Stories in the Bible.”[1]  I’ll bet that got your attention.  That provocative phrase is the title of an article written by Neal Stone that I stumbled across while I was doing research for this homily.  As you can tell from the title, the author thinks that the Parable of the Prodigal Son is . . . well . . . stupid   because, in his words, “[i]t contradicts punishment for evil and reward for good.”[2]  Mr. Stone goes so far as to propose a different ending to the parable that goes like this:
          And when he returned home, his father kicked [him] and made him a servant to his brother who did the right thing.  He was sent to his room with no supper while a major party was thrown for the good son as a reward for his faithfulness.  He then would forever be a servant of the family never to receive any inheritance from his father or family and would forever live in shame for what he had done.[3]
It sounds like Mr. Stone is suffering from “Older Son Syndrome.”  Today’s Gospel provides the cure.
          Our readings today tell us that we have entered a new era – a time of great joy.  Our first reading proclaims that the Lord has removed the reproach of slavery from us (Joshua 5: 9a), and our second reading makes clear that “the old things have passed away; new things have come.”   (2 Corinthians 5:17)  Jesus tells us what all this means in the Parable of the Prodigal Son, where a loving father welcomes his younger son who has returned from a life lost to sin, embraces him and throws a big party for him.  The outcome of this story may seem unfair – an ungrateful son is rewarded for his arrogance and disobedience.  The older son in the parable certainly didn’t like it and neither did Mr. Stone.  Maybe we don’t like it either.  But remember, our readings tell us that “the old things have passed away; new things have come.”
          So what are these new things?  Well, let’s start with what has never changed.  God loves us all, perfectly and equally.  And he never stops loving us, no matter what we do.  In fact, God’s love and forgiveness are far, far greater than the grievousness of our wrongdoing.[4]  Pope Benedict XVI talks about this in his first Encyclical, God is Love, when he says that “God’s passionate love for his people – for humanity – is . . . a forgiving love.  It is so great that it turns God against himself, his love against his justice.”[5]  That’s where the new things come in.  The new era begins with Jesus Christ, who through his loving self-sacrifice on the cross, reconciled justice with love.  Through Jesus, God is “breaking through the condemnation of [his] own law in order to reach out and save the lost.”[6]  The love of God, incarnate in Jesus Christ, ushers in the new era: an era where love conquers sin; an era where the Father seeks out the lost, runs out to welcome us, and celebrates our return, not matter what we may have done.      
          But to receive the love that never stops searching for us, we have to be willing to be found.  There is some effort required on our part.  We have to acknowledge our wrongdoing – we have to understand how far we’ve wandered away from God, and we have to turn back.  “[We] have to turn back to God, but we don’t have to crawl back.  Divine love meets [us] more than half way.”[7]    The challenge is that it’s not always easy to see how far we’ve wandered off.  Sure, in the case of the younger son, it’s not too difficult.  When we hear words like “squandered his inheritance,” “a life of dissipation,” and “swallowed up your property with prostitutes,” we know he’s pretty far from God. 
          But what about the older son?  What did he do wrong?   He didn’t demand his inheritance; he stayed faithful to his Father . . . until the father showed mercy to the younger son.  In his self-righteousness, the older son forgets the tremendous love he has received all along, and he becomes angry when his father extends that love to his sinful brother. He doesn’t believe that the younger son deserves it.  With that attitude, the older son has wandered just as far from God as the younger son did, just in a different way.  And he’s missing out on the celebration.  “Sharing in God’s grace requires that we join in the celebration when others are recipients of that grace also.”[8]
          You know, rejoicing, celebrating the new era is what the Church is talking about when it preaches New Evangelization.  New Evangelization is welcoming our lost brothers and sisters home and rejoicing when they return so we can share the joy of God’s Kingdom together, here and now.  New Evangelization isn’t standing with crossed arms and furrowed brows as we judge the sins of others in ways that only God can.  It doesn’t demand punishment for evil.  That’s Older Son Syndrome, and it’s incompatible with New Evangelization and with our own salvation.
          I have to admit that from time to time, I suffer from Older Son Syndrome.  I find myself sympathizing with Mr. Stone’s argument when I overlook the many blessings that I’ve received and self-righteously convince myself that I’m somehow better and more deserving than others.    But fortunately, there’s a cure for Older Son Syndrome.  It begins in recognizing that in my self-righteousness, I’ve wandered as far from God as the younger son did.  Then, standing in the shoes of the younger son, I might understand that if Mr. Stone’s proposed ending to the Parable of the Prodigal Son applied to me, it would sound something like this:
          And when I returned home, my father kicked [me] and made me a servant to my brother who did the right thing.  I was sent to my room with no supper while a major party was thrown for the good son as a reward for his faithfulness.  I then would forever be a servant of the family never to receive any inheritance from my father or family and would forever live in shame for what I had done.

From that perspective, I might not be so insistent on punishment for evil.  From that perspective, I might thank God that a new era has begun and be more willing to rejoice when God’s love is extended to others.  From that perspective, I might just realize that “The Prodigal Son is one of the Greatest Stories in the Bible.”



[1]Neal Stone, “The Prodigal Son is one of the Stupidest Stories in the Bible,” ExChristian.net (September 29, 2008), http://articles.exchristian.net/2008/09/prodigal-son-is-one-of-the-stupidest.html, accessed March 8, 2013.
[2] Id.
[3] Id.
[4] Patricia Datchuck Sánchez, “Breaking the Rules,” National Catholic Reporter, vol. 49, no. 10 (March 1-14, 2013) at 23.
[5] Pope Benedict XVI, Deus Caritas Est (Vatican City, Libreria Vaticana, 2005) at 10.
[6] Reginald H. Fuller, Daniel Westberg, Preaching the Lectionary: The Word of God for the Church Today, 3rd ed. (Collegeville, Liturgical Press, 2006) at 408.
[7] John Shea, The Spiritual Wisdom of the Gospels for Christian Preachers and Teachers:  The Relentless Widow (Collegeville, Liturgical Press, 2006) at 83.
[8] R. Alan Culpepper, “The Gospel of Luke,” The New Interpreter’s Bible, vol. IX (Nashville, Abingdon Press, 1995) at 304.

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